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Finding Someone To Date – Part 2 – Online

Saturday, April 3rd, 2010

No matter how you try to go about it or where you do it, finding a perfect match can be a little bit difficult at times. Online love is a solution that many people favor in this day and age. A lot of us have such busy, hectic lives that we can’t really afford to take the time to go out to bars, network with friends, or do the other social activities that really help people meet their match. This is why online dating services have so much appeal.  Not only do they put a little bit of distance between two people who are flirting together, making it feel safer and more natural, but they also make the whole process so much more efficient. With an online dating service, you can talk to thousands of singles!

Nonetheless, there are some definite disadvantages to looking for online love. The real problem with an online dating service is that what you see isn’t always what you get. In some ways, this is an advantage. People can really portray an idealized version of themselves, making it easier to make a good first impression. For a lot of awkward people, the first meeting of the most difficult. Through an online dating service, you can make this meeting comparatively easy.

42-15977462The flip side, of course, is that it is hard to see who you’re actually talking to on an online dating service. Although the Internet scare stories – The ones where stalkers create a completely fictitious identity in the interest of fooling people for nefarious reasons – are extremely rare. You can be pretty sure that your online dating service won’t be dangerous. Still, there are some things that will key you in to whether or not your potential mate is who they say they are.

The biggest thing to look for, of course, is whether or not they represent themselves in a consistent manner. Most people who lie are not very good at it. You can use this to your advantage. If someone on an online dating service seems to be telling a different story every time, you can be pretty sure that they’re lying. If not, you can be pretty sure that they are telling the truth. Either way, you can usually tell pretty quickly. Then you can decide whether or not to pursue anything. If not, you always have time to move on to someone else.

Check out some success stories on the recommendations page from me and a few of my friends who have successfully met an online match.

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First – Find Someone To Date – Part 1

Wednesday, March 24th, 2010

Many people seem to be confused as to what they should look for in a person. They get caught up in what others are looking for in their relationships, or in learning how others find their perfect someone.

Don’t get caught up in what everybody else is doing.

And don’t believe everything you hear.

For example, you may think that the rich and the famous can have anyone in the whole world that they want — but this is SO not true.

The Two Biggest Myths – Wealth  and/or  Good Looks are the way into any person’s heart.

These are the least likely ways to get into the right person’s heart.

Yes, you could find someone who is willing to spend their life with you, but they are doing it for all the wrong reasons. They are not with you for you, but with you for what you have or how you look.

When you are meet someone you are interested in  – you’ve got to look deep. Don’t look at them for where they work, what they own, where they live, or how they look. Look beyond those things and look deep into their mind and soul.

When you learn how to see the heart and soul of a person – then you will be able to find the right person. You’ll be able to see whether that person is the kind of person you want to spend lots of time – and possibly the rest of your life with.

Attracting the right person takes time and effort – but most of all – it takes honesty.

Being honest with yourself – and – finding someone who is honest with you.

The bottom line is:  Be the kind of person that you want to attract – and you will be able to find the right person for you.

Check back for the continuation of this series – Where Do You Find That Special Someone – Part 2.

And . . . Please let me know if you like it.

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300 Creative Dates – A Great Little Book

Sunday, November 1st, 2009

Making a great first impression is everything on the first few dates. And there’s no doubt that fun, creative and unique date ideas really help boost your points in the eyes of women. And if you’ve been together for years, dates help re-spark some life back into your relationship. But finding ideas for great dates is the hard part!

So does Michael Webb’s 300 Creative Dates book deliver on its promise as having creative, unique and fun dates?

Yes and no. Let me explain.

While there are 300 great date ideas in this book, you probably already guessed that you might not like or want to use all 300 of them. While many of the ideas are very creative, others are only a good reminder of places that everyone knows about but they either forgot or never realized that they’re such ideal places for a date.

Thankfully the, “I would-have-NEVER-thought-of-that-in-a-million-years!” ideas DO outweigh the date idea refreshers.

This book will make you smile, laugh and inspire you to always find the adventure in whatever it is you’re doing.

It also has ‘dating coupons’ you can give to your partner to redeem at a later date. Three examples are:  “Redeem this for a fruit-picking day at an orchard or berry patch, a one-hour bike ride or an evening at a nearby drive-in theatre.” Plus some you can use yourself.

Also, the book has a great section on dating disaster stories that will definitely show the guys what NEVER to do on dates.

So is the book perfect?

No. While there are 300 ideas, you really can’t read more than 50-60 in one sitting before it gets tedious, and some descriptions are a little lengthy. However, pages 93-94 do have a nice list of bullets with ‘quick and to the point’ date ideas ready. No elaboration. If you’re in the need of a date idea fast, then you’ll love these pages. All in all, this is still a fantastic book that everyone should read!

Whether you want to impress that special someone on a first date, surprise them for a special anniversary or occasion, or just want to breathe new life into your relationship because it’s getting a little on the bland side, then grab this book now.

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Ideas For Great Dates – 300 of Them In Fact

Wednesday, October 28th, 2009

Have you run out of ideas for great dates? Are you looking for unique or fun date ideas? Do you need suggestions for a romantic date? Maybe you need creative things to say and do when asking for a date.

Well, whatever your reason for looking at this topic, I’m sure you know how important really great dates are.

Seriously.

I mean, you know things get a little stale in a relationship after a while. And if you’re single, then I’m sure you know how important it is to plan a fun out-of-this-world date that will leave a solid impression!

The reason I’m bringing this up is because last week I stumbled across a great book I wanted to tell you about by Oprah’s Romance Expert Michael Webb. The book is called ‘300 Creative Dates‘ and it’s truly amazing!

Sure, there are many simple ideas that this book helps you remember by refreshing your memory, but there are so many ideas that I would have never thought of in 1000 years!

I have only tried a couple of these dates so far. But, hey … they really were GREAT dates! They brought back a lot of great memories for both of us! We shared a terrific evening doing something we’d never done together before. And we had fun!

My only complaint is that I wish I had bought this book the first time I was online surfing and found the page. To be perfectly honest, I thought I could find creative date ideas for free by simply surfing the net, (which was what I was doing out there in the first place). But sadly they don’t exist. Sure, I found some ideas but nothing that makes you go, “Wow! Now that would be a Great Date!”

I really believe you need to put effort and planning into a really great date. And sometimes, it’s just plain hard to come up with ideas.

So, if you want to impress that special someone on a first date or plan a romantic evening or special occasion, or if you just want to kick-start your relationship again and get out of the ho-hum ‘go to the movies again’ routine – then you need to grab this book now.

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